July 2016 - Being Authentic
How often are you truly yourself – at work or at home? Studies indicate there is a tremendous toll taken when we spend day after day suppressing who we really are and pretending to be who we think others want/need us to be. And of course what we think others want/need may or may not be true. And, in the long run, the end result is likely to be avoidable suffering, misperception, and lots of misdirected energy.
As the saying by Oscar Wilde goes, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” You are indeed unique in the world. There is literally no one else in the world who is exactly like you. And, knowing you have that special gift, why would you want to hide/suppress/selectively reveal so much of the time? Is it fear that’s holding you back – people will not “get you” or potentially negative consequences to being who you really are. No doubt, it may be exhausting at the beginning to “just be yourself.”
It may take time and a well-informed “launch” schedule to share “the real you” to various people and at differing times. But, you know how you feel when you are around people who like you for who you really are, who are non-judgmental and recognize each of us is a work in progress and will make missteps along the way. Despite that Academy Award-winning performance that fools almost everyone except those who truly know who we are, when we deny ourselves, there is a high price to be paid – shame, anxiety, depression, unhealthy habits and addictions, moody behavior and lashing out, and the stress which negatively impacts our hormonal balance and increases our risk of a variety of diseases and conditions – weight gain, sleep disorders, diabetes, and hypertension, just to name a few.
Only you can decide if/when the benefits of being you outweigh the costs – both real and imagined. See what you think after finding out what others have discovered:
- Mike Robbins – The Power of Authenticity
- Consider this idea: